One on One Coaching
We All Need Help On Our Journey
As people who have been raised outside of our Native nations, it can be hard and scary to figure out how to reconnect authentically and responsibly. After taking our coming home work courses, we hope that you now have some tools and direction to help move this work forward for you. But there is the theory of coming home work, and then there is the practice. As you take more and more steps along your personal coming home journey, questions will come up. Is this the right thing? Why do I feel a certain way about what I am doing? Is it ok if I …….? That is what these sessions are designed for. To have a safe space to get some answers.
One of the key decisions I have made in my coming home journey is to be a home to all of us who are on this path. It can be really lonely and confusing to figure out what the next step is and where to go. We could all use someone to hold our hand when we are nervous to take the next step, or to reassure us that a happiness beyond our wildest dreams is waiting for us on the other side of the obstacle that we are facing now. It takes courage to choose to come home, and it is always easier to be brave when you have your people with you. The universe and the ancestors are always there to guide us, but sometimes we need to hear their wisdom through human interaction. This is where one on one mentorship or coaching can be really useful.
Who Is Coaching For?
There are so many ways to do coming home work. Some do it through tracing the food of their peoples and learning the old recipes and preparation methods. Some do it through herbalism, curanderismo, or farming. Still more learn the old songs in their Native languages, and learn the ceremonies from our ancestral healers. Others write, paint, knit, sew, and draw. But if you are searching, and not sure where to start, or what the next step is, then these coaching sessions are for you.
All of us begin our coming home journeys from different places. Some of us were separated from our Native nations because of adoption, war, assimilation, residential schools, rape, poverty, forced migration and the list goes on. These are all acts of genocide, designed to push us out of our Indigeneity. Kill the Indian, Save the Man. These are hard truths that are easier to face together. I have been doing coming home work with Native Raised Native elders and Indigenous mentors since 2014. I have been given many gifts that I want to pass on and share with all of you. Our group classes are great places to build community, but if you want more specific guidance and regular check ins, one on one time is available.
How Do I Coach?
With Love. Loving people is something that I have always known how to do with great abandon. It didn’t much matter to my young heart if the person loved me back, I just knew that I loved them. I am still like that.
This is what coaching means to me. To be a good friend, whether for just a project or a lifetime. To help someone dig deep and find the courage to be who they really are, go after their true purpose, and hold their hand as they walk through the fear to make it happen in their lives. Society convinces us that our circumstances or the real world make it impossible to get what we want and sometimes that is true. Oppression and hardship are real. But I believe that hope, purpose, and love are much bigger forces than oppression in the universe. I want to help others remember that when they are down and out, so they don’t have to give up because they are afraid and feel like shit. We get to keep trying, and if something fails, we learn from it and try something else. Giving up isn’t part of the conversation.
Some of my mentors have been my bosses, so checking in was a regular thing. Whether every day, once a week, or once a month. Some of my mentors are people I just call up whenever I want, whether that’s every few weeks, months, or years. Some mentors I visit with once a year and download all my troubles and all their knowledge all at once. Some check-ins involve written exercises, which can sometimes help clarify my thinking in ways that talking does not. There are so many different options, which I will leave up to you who are reading this page.
I also know that some people have the means to pay for this kind of time, and others do not. I value my time very much and know that it is worth a lot. But I also believe in being generous with it because so many people in my life have been so generous with me. It is strange to introduce money into any relationship, but I also live in a world where I have bills to pay. So I offer a sliding scale for my coaching fees, and different amounts of time so that there are options to make this as accessible as possible.
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I offer these coaching services from my heart and want it to available to anyone who needs it. But I also live in a capitalist society with rent to pay. Please select a rate based on your ability to pay when you book some time with me.